“ I watched First Dates for the first time and now I want to register ” – James Bayley
Most dating shows focus on the rejection aspect of the process, like ITV’s “ not like the light ” phrase. Take me or the Channel 4 naked attraction body part removal method.
The appeal of First Dates is that it rejects the dating culture of the 21st century, instead promoting this magic word – chemistry (ew).
And the best part is that everything is happening in front of our eyes on TV, at least it seems.
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I’m always wary of reality TV, and watching First Dates was no different.
I just think it’s impossible to act naturally on TV unless you’re a professional.
That’s why most normal people never appear on TV, and if we do, we don’t know what to do with our hands and face and everything; even some politicians struggle with this.
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I just picked an episode of First Dates at random; I didn’t want to watch the first episode when the show was in its infancy because no one wants to be judged on their first time.
The first thing I noticed was how boring Frenchman Fred is.
He’s really intrusive and says, oooh the way too often; we understand, you are French.
Then there’s the mixer / guidance counselor who didn’t make a single cocktail for the whole episode.
In general, far too much dating content has been sacrificed for the tedious supply of supportive distribution from First Dates.
Things then took a turn for Love Island when a Welshman revealed a tattoo above his penis after being asked to do so by an actress … I mean, a waitress.
Needless to say, it wasn’t the healthy content I was promised.
But I was fortunately proved by the following couple.
Aaron and Jess, both from Devon, completely changed my perception of the show.
Aaron, 31, opened up about his transition from female to male in the episode, first on the date and then later in a more in-depth interview.
The two were shocked to see each other at the First Dates restaurant, as they already knew each other from their hometown.
They even “had an affair” before Aaron’s transition.
At the end of the date, Aaron and Jess hugged and apparently met the next day to “make up for the years they lost.”
It was heartwarming to watch, and many of the other dates featured in the episode had moments so authentic that they resonated or amused much more than the repeated lines of dialogue could.
For example, with a voice slightly higher than an average man, one man retorted on his date, “Puberty came and went like a rainy weekend in Clapton.”
If you ignore the antics in the background and focus on the authentic, unscripted moments between the daters, this show can be jaw-dropping.
The folks in the editing suite and those who do the actual matchmaking are why this show is so intriguing to watch.
There is no other dating show like this that puts human companionship above cheap jokes and thrills, and, for that reason, I wouldn’t hesitate to apply for the show on my own. -even.
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