Jana Hocking: Foolproof Ways to Impress on the First Date
Singles! There is a simple rule if you want to start a date well: take care of your hygiene and be presentable. That’s it. The end. Complete stop. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
Now listen, I’m sure you’re all thinking “Well Fred!” (Do people still say that or is it a term that was best kept in the 90s ?!) but I’m serious!
As someone who has had many happy dates, I can safely say that the first 5 minutes of a date sets the tone for whether it will be successful or meh.
We judge, we all do. In the first greeting, I timed the clothes, shoes, teeth, smell, and hairstyle.
If I see a hint of oily hair, a dirty one, or a BO thong I’m already looking for the nearest exit. He says either 1. You’re not that invested in the date and you just threw on any old thing and rushed out the door. Or 2. You are lazy.
The other day I had a last minute date with a guy and we gave ourselves 30 minutes to get ready and meet around the corner for a wine. During this time, I managed to jump in the shower, put my hair in a high ponytail, light makeup, a cute dress, brush my teeth and spray on some perfume.
I thought maybe he had arrived in his work clothes and a quick spray of deodorant.
No! He looked freshly shaved, his hair groomed, dressed in a nice collared shirt, and smelled divine like something Christian Dior-like. Tick, tick, tick!
Already the date had started well, and despite going to the local pub, I loved that he went the extra mile with a collared shirt. Men – never underestimate the power of a collared shirt. Preferably in a light blue or pink. For some reason, it only makes the eyes of a girl’s loving heart shine.
I don’t care if you develop a nervous sweat during the date or if you have food stuck in your teeth during dinner, if you arrived smelling good and looking organized you might just come. be to hang a girl.
Don’t just take my word for it. There was a study by five researchers in 2005 that asked the question “what is a dating deal breaker” and the most common answer among college students, millennials, baby boys. boomers and, by and large, anyone between the ages of 18 and 68 was “poor hygiene.” .
After that, there was laziness and anyone needy / clingy (fair call!), But poor hygiene was an absolute evidence among study participants.
I once dated a guy with the most horrible breath. He was GORGEOUS but the breath – I just couldn’t get past him. What worried me the most was that I was sitting across the table, not even close, and could still smell a good whiff of it.
It shatters any hope of an awkward, awkward but arousing first kiss. We were a long way from the “Baby, your breath is a little stinky, can you go brush your teeth” meeting point, so I sighed and continued on my way.
So let’s add this to the list of things to do before going on a first date.
I would also like to add clean hair. I have a friend with really luscious locks, but they have a theory that it doesn’t look better for four days after washing them. They are wrong, but refuse to listen. I can say with heart that the smell of fresh shampoo from a good mop is divine.
I once had a guy who pulled me closer because “my hair smelled so good.” Look, if that’s what it takes to have a first kiss then put the Pantene on because I have a shower date.
So in summary, let’s make it really easy for everyone. Here are the following items that you should check off your list before a date:
1. Brush your teeth – extra points if you floss and use mouthwash.
2. Wash and style your hair.
3. Put on deodorant – maybe a little more in case of a nervous attack.
4. Make a little effort on the outfit, even if you are just going to the pub.
5. Wear perfume / cologne – this is not negotiable.
6. Wear nice shoes – don’t hesitate to grab your flip flops, throw them in a fire pit, light a match and burn them until all that is left is ashes.